Real Father’s Legacy
It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father,
Pope John XXIII.
In 1972, President Richard M. Nixon signed a proclamation making Father’s Day a federal holiday. Father's Day is celebrated on the third Sunday of June, the 18th in 2017. It celebrates the contribution that fathers and father figures make for their children's lives. Its origins may lie in a memorial service held for a large group of men, many of them fathers, who were killed in a mining accident in Monongah, West Virginia in 1907.
There are more than 70 million fathers in the United States. Are you a real father?
Much has been said about fathers, both good and bad. My experience has been that the questions of fatherhood come first, the right answers come latter. As a result, I often listen to the tapes of my father’s example, not his words. Fortunately for me, my father was a real father. As I’ve grown older, I’ve attempted the to draw from a combination of sources: The Bible; personal experience and research; and other’s counsel and experience including Milton Crum, Pastor Bruce Goettsche, Cavin Harper, Richard L. Morgan, Dr. Tim Smith, and Jane Marie Thibault, to provide potential answers for be becoming a real father. The focus will be on religious, financial, mental, physical health,
and social leadership.
Acceptance of Jesus Christ as your Savior
The ultimate answer to every question is Jesus Christ
The Lord has forgiven our sins, is working in us to make us like Him and has given us eternal life with Him
Discover His plan for you in the following scriptures:
The Ten Commandments
Exodus 20:1-17 (NIV)
Trust in God Commandment
Psalms 118.8 (NKJV)
The Sermon on the Mount
Matthew 5-7 (NIV)
The Building of His Church Commission
Matthew 16:18 (NIV)
The Great Commandment
Matthew 22:37-40 (NIV)
The Great Commission
Matthew 28:19-20 (NIV)
The Sermon on the Plain
Luke 6:17-49 (NIV)
The Longevity Response-Ability Commission
John 3:16 (NIV)
The Stewardship Commandment
Colossians 3:23–24 (NIV)
Rejoice & Give Thanks Commandment
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV)
Worship God in church every Sunday
Faithfully participate in His work
Pray for His strength to booster your courage
Read and study the reassurances in the Bible
Pre-marital Church sponsored marriage course
Selection of an opposite-sex spouse and taking three years to get to know one another before marriage
“I hope that families of old people, as well as the doctors, nurses, and aides who care for them, will listen to the old people themselves about their choice between life-extending care and palliative care. Listening sometimes requires patience and alertness for non-verbal communication. It also requires laying aside the assumption that everyone wants to be kept alive regardless of quality of life,” Milton Crum.
Let family know your desires in dying. This will be reassuring to you and help them with the healing process and better prepare them for their own passing one day.
No matter how well or how poorly you follow these principles, Jesus loves you!
Spousal pre-agreement on church attendance, a family budget, division of labor, number of children, discipline, chores, allowance or not, school or work activities priority, and communication devices, car, college funding: child, parents, or shared, sizable purchases, particularly on houses and automobiles, future estate planning; expenditure for church contribution, savings, investments; and protirement
A budget requires both spouse’s approval
A home and auto are among the biggest budget decisions that you make in life. Take your time, think, and pray about them
Never spend more than you earn
Always pay taxes and give charitable gifts first, then live on what is left
Compound interest is either a powerful foe (Debt) or friend (Investment)
Follow Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace Tips and historical spending guidelines:
Don’t guarantee another person’s debt
It’s not a bargain, if you cannot use it
Never buy a major expenditure on an impulse or based on fear or urgency
Start budgeting early and planning for protirement
Prepare and review regularly:
Revocable trust (if needed)
Power of attorney for Health Care
Power of attorney for Property
Memorandum of Tangible Property
Animal Care Instructions
Executor Instruction Letter
Estate Document Locator
Have a family discussion meeting
Have a sentimental property meeting
The funeral should be a happy day. All the aches, pains, and concerns of this life are taken away. The old worn-out body is laid to rest. God and all the heavenly hosts are celebrating the arrival of your spirit.
Maintain an attitude of gratitude
Read and know the Bible
Worship each Sunday
Fellowship (Identify with the body)
Don’t divorce, cohabitate, watch pornography or commit to any other additive bad habit
Pray for humility daily
Be thankful for God’s love
Speak to others only what will bless them and build them up
Be a ferocious reader
Enjoy God’s outdoors
Be a good listener, ask questions and draw others out
Love and respect your parents
Have a can do (self-reliance), will do (determined) attitude
Thank God first thing in the morning and last thing in the evening
What others think of you is not your business
Make peace with your past (forgive everyone)
Love heals everything
Do not compare yourself or judge others
Measure three times, cut once
You are in-charge of your happiness
Do not worry
Have a pet
Your parents prefer to be independent and live in their own home
Drink 8 glass of water a day
Do not smoke
Drink alcohol in moderation
Limit meal intake
Eat a balance diet
Take a multivitamin/mineral
Eat an apple daily
After age 50 take two fiber tablets for regularity
Run 5 or walk 10 minutes a day
Walking produces many health benefits
Take preventive steps
Know the warning signs
Call 911 immediately for a stoke
Take a baby aspirin
“Listen to your parents that they are not the same physically; old age takes their GO, GO, GO. Aging is not more of the same, but rather an evolution of changes that neither we nor they fully comprehend,” Milton Crum.
We should focus on being like Jesus rather than the “successful people” of our world. He is our goal, not the man with the smile and $1000 suit.
We should focus on what we can do for others instead of what others can do for us.
We should focus on helping people to manage on their own rather than simply throwing money at them.
We should measure ourselves by the Word of God rather than measuring the Word of God by our thoughts and desires.
Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Start each day thanking God for all that He has given you: a new day of life; His mercy and grace; your family; your health; His promises in the Word of God; a purpose in living. Be specific. Look for opportunities to thank people for their work and the blessings they have given you.
Make a conscious effort to look for ways that you can give to others rather than focusing on what you think you deserve from others.
Count the number of “whiners” you encounter in a day. Notice the sense of entitlement they have and determine to be different.
Work at growing your relationship with God. Practice spiritual discipline. Make time to read the Word. Work at prayer. Be good stewards of what you have. Read a challenging Christian book, stop demanding to be spoon fed.
Hold yourself accountable. When you hear, yourself say or think about what you “deserve”, stop and ask yourself why do you think you “deserve” these things.
Work to build responsibility into your children. Help them to understand that the world does not revolve around them now so that they will not be shocked when it doesn’t revolve around them later.
Diligently pursue contentment. Learn to gladly receive what God has given to you. Enjoy life as it is rather than longing for a day when things will be better.
“If you do not start planning a real father you wish to be at an early age,
it’s not likely to happen.”
The above was excepted from Daily Legacy Living by Robert W Chism.
Father’s Day Books by Robert W. Chism
Second Half of Life Ministry Seminary Curricula was written to emphasize the need for Second Half of Life Ministry Seminary Curricula texts for training and equipping students; for seminary, graduate pastors; and elderhood protirement laymen desiring training and equipping for the best uses their time for the Lord. What is needed is less talk and much more action.
It also showcases a Second-Half Ministry Reading Certification Series.
Second-Half Ministry Reading
In Fundamental Retirement/ Protirement Planning starting early on your retirement planning is essential. Critical elements you should learn are salvation, stewardship, wellness, and works. Key stewardship fundamentals taught include preparing a budget, leaving a lasting legacy, drafting a will and final instructional documents. Protirement means retiring or quitting an unattractive job to pursue work or hobbies more suited to one's personality. Fundamental Retirement/ Protirement Planning was written for a Second Half of life Ministry Reading Certification Series and a classic primer for young adult’s self-study reference guide to finish extremely well, plus achieve spiritual, physical, mental, and financial health.
God’s Grand Plan focuses on the daily living characteristics of Jesus Christ: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithful-ness, gentleness, and self-control as found in Galatians,” 5:22-23 (NIV).
If you wish to be happy for the rest your life, let Jesus’s thoughts become your thoughts and bend your will to His will. “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus,” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV).
The Second Half of Living is self-help for second-halfers to age happily and finish extremely well. It is, also, a preview of what the second half of life can be.
Chism’s Isms is a collection of articles and essays for church leadership and second-halfers to grow, connect, serve, reach, and better prepare for a fuller, more productive, rewarding life and eternity with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. The theme is making an elderhood protirement adult difference for Christianity and country.
The focus of Daily Legacy Living is on religious health, financial health, mental health, physical health and social leadership principles. If one does not start planning the
person one wishes to become at an early age, it’s highly unlikely to happen. The book provides potential answers for many of life’s legacy questions to provide a solid foundation for planning a worthwhile legacy.
Planning the Life God Wants was written for Christians, non-Christians, those in debt, those planning their life and those wishing to leave a legacy. The focus is on salvation and stewardship with a brief mention of mental and physical health. In our Christian walk, there is much to be accomplished in our congregation, community, state, and nation by fighting against the unshakable facts (challenge ageing intolerance and conflict; unconstitutional government; and reclaiming our nation as Christian and free).
The Essential Ingredients for Second-Half Ministry was written to answer the question as to the missing ingredients for the church to be successful with the new life stage of Elderhood, graduation from the public sector, and the protirement life style.
Life Stages Lessons were written as an Alpha Tau Omega Life Guide for American's financial, mental, physical and religious health. Everyone, particularly your children, grandkids, women, and elderhood adults, will benefit from the book. Life Stages Lessons focus on the matters that make a difference (Stewardship) in this life and make all the difference (Salvation) for eternity.
A New Life Stage is about WHY God has provided us with an extra 30 years to make an eternal difference in our second half of life. The book teaches about a new life stage, elderhood, life after adulthood, and equips, energizes, and enables the new life stage, elderhood.
Making an Aging Difference is a tool kit of guides for helping second-halfers make the most of the next phase of their life. Each chapter provides both information and instruction for helping to make a more productive second half of life and potential aging legacy.
Longevity Response-Ability is a collection of readings (legacy letters, stories, and plans) to help second-halfers grow, connect, serve, reach, and better prepare for a fuller, more productive, rewarding life and eternity with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
Second-Half Elderhood Protirement Ministry, New Beginning’s first publication is a thoroughly researched resource manual packed with relevant information and advice from proven sources.
The most appropriate categories for these books are religious aging leadership and self-help aging.
The books were written as a seminary text for training and equipping students; for seminary, graduate pastors; and elderhood protirement laymen desiring training and equipping for the best use their time for the Lord.
The goal is to help minister and train 142 Million second-halfers: 82 Million who need to be evangelized and 60 Million who need to be equipped. This is the largest domestic missionary field in the history of our nation.
Each book was also written as a volume for any age in planning their legacy life.
All New Beginnings book royalties, after expenses, are contributed to fund second-half of life research and service.